Books By Kan
Self-help books for women ready to rebuild steadier habits,
self-trust and a life that feels like theirs again.
Which book should I start with?
Start with Steadier After 40 if…
You want practical support to understand self-sabotage, emotional dips, cravings and the habit loops that keep pulling you back.
Start with Support Before Discipline if…
You feel more deeply stuck, worn down or disconnected from yourself, and want to understand why you keep starting over without blaming yourself.
Steadier After 40
Understand Your Habits, Break Self-Sabotage and Feel More in Control
Steadier After 40 is a practical, honest book for women over 40 who feel stuck in the same old patterns and are tired of trying to shame themselves into change.
If you keep promising yourself you’ll stop smoking, drink less, eat better, move more, stop scrolling, get organised or finally become “that woman” but somehow keep slipping back, this book was written for you.
Not because you are lazy.
Not because you are broken.
And not because you need another perfect plan.
This book helps you understand what is really happening underneath your habits, so you can begin responding with more awareness, steadiness and self-trust.
• You feel like you keep starting over
• You struggle with self-sabotage, cravings or emotional dips
• You want to understand your habits instead of just fighting them
• You feel tired of all-or-nothing thinking
• You want steadier routines without harsh discipline
• You are ready to feel more in control, but in a kinder way
This book is for you if…
Inside, you’ll learn how to…
• Understand the habit loop that keeps pulling you back
• Recognise emotional dips before they quietly derail your progress
• Respond to cravings and urges with awareness instead of reaction
• Steady your system before trying to control your behaviour
• Break the cycle of starting over every Monday
• Build habits that feel realistic, supportive and more likely to last
This is not about becoming perfect.
It is about becoming steadier.
More aware.
More supported.
And more able to stay with yourself when things feel difficult.
A note from me
I wrote this book because I know what it feels like to keep trying to become a better version of yourself while quietly feeling like you are failing.
For years, I thought I just needed more discipline, more motivation and a better routine. But I have learned that real change often starts with understanding, not shame.
Steadier After 40 is the book I needed when I was tired of starting again, but still wanted to believe change was possible.
Available in paperback, Kindle and free with Kindle Unlimited.
Available in paperback, Kindle and free with Kindle Unlimited.
Support Before Discipline
Support Before Discipline is a grounded, honest self-help book for women who feel stuck, worn down, disappointed in themselves, or quietly lost inside a life that no longer feels like theirs.
This is not a book about forcing yourself into another “new me” routine.
It is about understanding why you keep starting over, why self-sabotage makes sense when you are depleted, and why shame has never been the answer to real change.
Written with warmth, honesty and lived experience, this book speaks to the woman who has spent years trying to fix herself, while slowly abandoning the woman who needed care, support and self-trust.
Why women get stuck, lose themselves, and how to begin again with strength, self-trust and a life that finally fits.
Support Before Discipline is a grounded, honest self-help book for women who feel stuck, worn down, disappointed in themselves, or quietly lost inside a life that no longer feels like theirs.
This is not a book about forcing yourself into another “new me” routine.
It is about understanding why you keep starting over, why self-sabotage makes sense when you are depleted, and why shame has never been the answer to real change.
Written with warmth, honesty and lived experience, this book speaks to the woman who has spent years trying to fix herself, while slowly abandoning the woman who needed care, support and self-trust.
This book is for you if…
• You feel stuck, worn down or quietly lost
• You keep blaming yourself for not being more disciplined
• You are tired of starting over and waiting to feel ready
• You feel disconnected from yourself or your own life
• You recognise patterns of procrastination, people-pleasing, self-doubt or low standards
• You want to begin again without shame, force or self-punishment
Inside, you’ll explore…
This book is for you if…
• Why women lose themselves slowly, often without noticing
• How coping habits can become patterns that keep you stuck
• Why self-sabotage often makes sense when you are depleted
• The emotional weight behind procrastination, people-pleasing, loneliness and self-doubt
• How to rebuild stronger standards without becoming harsh with yourself
• How to begin again with more compassion, self-trust and support
At its heart, Support Before Discipline is a reminder that you are not lazy, weak or broken.
You may simply have been under-supported for too long.
This book will help you begin again with more compassion, stronger standards, steadier habits and the belief that it is never too late to come back to yourself.
For the woman who is tired of starting over, blaming herself and waiting to feel ready.
This is where you begin again.
Support Before Discipline
Why women get stuck, lose themselves, and how to begin again with strength, self-trust and a life that finally fits
Available in paperback, Kindle and free with Kindle Unlimited.